My two nephews, 13- and 11- year old, Dave and Bobby, visited us some time back during their fall break. While I am at the airport to see them off, we end up having a good couple of hours to spend together. They were traveling as unaccompanied minors so I was allowed to be with them until they boarded their flight. It so happens that the flight gets delayed. I truly cherish those two hours we spend together. Without their cousins (my kids) to distract them, we actually get an opportunity to have lot of discussions. Discussions that leave me inspired to write more. Their curiosity, their interest, their insightfulness, their feedback motivate me. They ask me about desideewar. They want to know how well it is doing. They have ideas of their own. They feeI I should really be making money from it. One thing leads to another and before long I am telling them about my radio interview on the topic ' Conversations with our sons'. They want to know more. I tell them I covered the kind of topics we should be having discussions on with our sons. I keep quite. I want to see if they prod me to go on. They do. The 13 year old, Dave, says, "So Mausi, what kind of topics are they?" I'm glad he asks. I launch into the details of my radio interview, as briefly as I can, but still conveying the gist of it all. I tell them the three simple things every mother should ask of their sons to ensure that they grow up to be a thorough gentlemen are-

1. That they open doors for the ladies, known or strangers, and yes, including their mother, sister and wife.
2. That they listen intently when talked to (no multi- tasking) and always hold the lady's gaze while she talks.
3. Never indulge in Sexting - don't ask for it and if sent- don't share/forward or even keep/ save.

 I stop here, not sure if they want to know more. Even though they seem to be listening intently, I feel like I want to see if they ask for more. The topic changes as we talk about something else. After a while, Dave says, "So Mausi what else did you say on the radio?". I am so happy he asks, for I want to tell them more. I tell them that mothers should talk to their sons about relationships. Again I briefly launch into the three simple things to discuss -

1. Handling rejection- I tell them to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel, if rejected. I tell them that I feel rejections must not be taken personally. After all each person is supposed to end up with just one.

2. It's a women's prerogative to say no- I tell them to always remember that.
3. To expect respect back- I tell them respect and expect the same in return.

After listening patiently for well over half an hour, my charming and extremely polite nephews surprisingly still seem game for more. Not wanting to bore them, I try changing the topic from 'my pravachans' (Hindi word for preaching) to their lives. So I ask the older one if he has a crush on anyone.

He goes, "No. I don't. Why do you ask, Mausi? Have you written on the topic on desideewar?"

I say, "No. Do you think I should?".

He says, "Sure."

"What do you think I should write on it"? I ask.

"Maybe you should write about when is a good time to have a crush", chimes in the younger one, clearly not wanting to be left out of the conversation for too long.

"That's no topic", says the big brother.

I say, "I love the idea. Perhaps I'll write about how to handle crushes?" They both agree, more out of politeness I reckon.

We go on to talk about many other stuff. Needless to say, I cherish the time I got to spend with them and was smiling for a long time after they were gone. Such bright and sharp young men! I'm sure they will grow up to be true gentlemen.

As for the suggestion my nephews leave me with- yes, I did have a conversation with my son on crushes and yes, I will write about it.

(Pictures: First- driving my nephews around while my kids are at school; Second- at the airport when we had our discussions)