We are in the movie theater with our two teenage kids, kicking off their spring break with a family- movie- night on the agenda. Except that the movie is rated R and our younger one is 13. Which movie? Tina Fey's latest release Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. I blame my daughter who had declared the movie to be PG-13 (yes, we should have checked instead of blindly trusting her- as she very wisely points out in her own defense too- probably what your thought is as well, and ours- if we are honest with ourselves). The movie continues, we all ignore the few sexually explicit scenes. Anyway, that isn't even the point of the story. The point really is that despite that, as we walk out I'm glad my kids got to see the movie because I realize that not only did they get a feel of what the war zones in Afghanistan looked/ felt like, but there is an even greater lesson to be learned here. A very important lesson.  

In the movie, Kim Baker (Tina Fey's character) is sent to Afghanistan as a war correspondent during Operation Enduring Freedom for (what was initially intended to be) a short assignment. However, the trill of getting stories from the danger prone areas keep her there for years. Her Afghan "aide" one day warns her about getting addicted to danger. I loved that scene. I realize, that is my biggest take away from the movie. 

So as we walk out, I talk to my kids, not about the war zones or the sex scenes (they probably know more than I give them credit for anyways) but about that one scene. I tell them that if you are ever in a situation where you "see" the "picture" when someone you care for isn't quite "seeing" it, speak up! You may think that the other person wouldn't really care for your opinion, and perhaps they really won't care, but don't let that deter you from speaking up- for you never know- an opinion shared honestly, with the best intention at heart, has the tendency of staying with people. At the right moment (possibly late, hopefully not never), it guides them to do what is right. 

My kids agree. And much to my satisfaction, they do appear to ponder over it. The regret of taking them to a R-rated movie is forgotten (of course, we will be careful next time- but that is our lesson to learn).